steeping the cabbage
Alex's Mom's Stuffed Cabbage on smittenkitchen.com
THIS is the right way.
Btw, we (oh god, even remembering it makes me want to retch...) tossed the remaining cabbage head in the garbage, still warm and the next morning when I opened the lid -- do I need to tell you? Officially the worst smell we've ever offended the Smitten Kitchen with.