test of a good marriage--communication
Lack of communication in a marital relationship is one of the main reasons couples end up in divorce. When spouses don't listen to one another, the result is often frustration, anger, misunderstandings, and hurt. Even your health can be compromised. Some studies on heart disease have shown that poor communication can result in rapid fluctuations in blood pressure which isn't good for your heart.
Poor communication skills can be an inherited family trait. If a person is raised in an environment where people don't listen or can't express their feelings, they will probably bring that inability to communicate into their marriage and other relationships. However, you can change the habit of being a shallow listener