fierceness in vulnerability
One of my friends just posted a link to a video on vulnerability. It's a bit long for the typical Internet attention span (which is often limited to 30-second cat videos), but do me a favor and play it in the background to start with, and pretty soon you'll be watching it all the way through. It's a wonderful and thought-provoking speech. In the end, Brene Brown says these things, which struck enough of a chord in me to jot down myself:
I'll leave you with this. This is what I have found.
To let ourselves be seen. Deeply seen, vulnerably seen.
To love with our whole hearts, even though there's no guarantee.
To practice gratitude and joy in those moments of terror when we're wondering, "Can I love you this much? Can I believe in this this passionately? Can I be this fierce about this?" Just to sort of stop and instead of catastrophizing what might happen to say, "I'm just so grateful. Because to feel this vulnerable means I'm alive."
To believe that we're enough. When we believe we're enough, we stop screaming and start listening. We're kinder and gentler to the people around us and we're kinder and gentler to ourselves.
The third point, in particular, means a lot to me. All of it is eye-opening, really. But to turn a potential weakness into a strength, to know that the thing we thought was wrong with us was really the thing that was right with us, all along... well, that's something. That's really, really something.
And for a bit of extra eye-opening, check out my friend's blog post regarding vulnerability. And any of her previous blog posts... they're all very much worth the read.