Larissa & Heidi
Larissa had her daughter when she was 20. Which seemed a bit early. But in talking to her, we all realized that, while most people tend to wait until their late 20s to have children, there are some upsides to having kids young.
The prime example was the fact that Larissa had stopped school to take care of Heidi, be a stay-at-home mom. But in a few years Heidi will be heading off to school herself, which will give Larissa the time to finish college. And she'll still only be in her late 20s.
Now, of course, it's rougher going back to school after having taken time off, but it's still possible. In talking to her, I quickly realized that under the right circumstances, it was entirely workable to both have children young AND live out the goals you'd set for yourself.
I often think about how unfair it is that women have to deal with slotting a child into their life goals in ways men don't. Especially now, at 31, the conversation with some of my female friends is about the limited time in which they get to figure that out, whether or not they want children, whether they can juggle having a child with all the other things they want to do, and the fact that they've only got until their mid 30s until it becomes a very pressing issue.
I don't know if Larissa's is the optimum situation, but she sure is making the best of it, and by all appearances, it looks like it's going to work out just fine.
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