Day 224: Learn To Shut Your Mouth.

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    Believe it or not, I'm a really nice person. I'm easy to get along with and I try to find something in common with practically everyone I meet.

    HOWEVER

    There are people in my daily life who are just completely fucking rude and I'm getting way too old to deal with their bullshit. So instead of just smiling and nodding and going about my day, I find myself being a complete bitch to these people. As each day passes I find myself wandering further away from the person who I thought I was. I'm starting to speak my mind and not really giving a shit about what other people think.

    HOWEVER

    While these folks might deserve it, in the end I feel like shit cause really thats not who I am. I don't think I like the person I'm slowly becoming.

    On the other hand, I will not be a doormat for these shitheads to walk all over. How many chances am I suppose to give? When is enough, enough?

    I just don't know.

    Bhumi Finding Herself, Dr.Doo, alt-os, and 1 other people added this photo to their favorites.

    1. Bhumi Finding Herself 72 months ago | reply

      Oh my god... I seriously had this same feeling and encounter .. I am such a nice person and am always trying to do my best to keep everyone happy but some people just don't know when to stop being rude and start being nice. And the place that I work at has seriously made me a bit of a bitch and heartless because I have come to realize that some people just don't deserve a nice attitude.. all they deserve is a bitchy side so they know not to walk all over you (I mean me :-)
      And I absolutely HATE that I am becoming this heartless (just a bit) person because I genuinely like to care about people and do everything to make their day better but... people just don't know how to keep their damn smart ass rude mouth shut and be nice.

      So I say, people deserve what they give you.. so I wouldn't feel so bad about being a bitch to people if they are to you too.

      Seriously, take it from a person who has give rude people more chances than anything -- they don't change.

    2. Bhumi Finding Herself 72 months ago | reply

      ^^
      Ooo sorry for such a long comment :-) I guess I know how you feel.

    3. Lima*Beans [deleted] 72 months ago | reply

      {{{Hugs}}} I am the same... smile and try to keep the peace while churning inside... yuck feeling. Currently, I'm also looking for balance in this area. Found a little and a few people are no longer part of my life... if it's not an option, just stop smiling back when they do it, even if you say nothing, they'll get it... eventualllllllly.

      Great photo!

    4. aubecherie [deleted] 72 months ago | reply

      I think you'll end up finding a middle ground....I just had to learn that instead of working really hard to please or act pissed off at someone, I just had to be completely myself even if it meant never feeling appreciated.

      In the end, I have to go home with myself, not them...So if I feel like I was the better person that day, then I feel accomplished..
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    5. MOVED TO PIXELENS FOLLOW ME THERE! [deleted] 72 months ago | reply

      Great shot to go with the description... it's a tough one... the way I see it, if it's worth opening your mouth over, then you can't keep it shut. But if it's something that isn't going to affect me tomorrow, then I probably will keep my mouth shut.

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    6. sjbmuse 72 months ago | reply

      Nice pic jk. I think aubecherie summed it up so well, find some middle ground so you don't end up hating yourself but there's no need to put up and shut up if they're making your life miserable. *hugs*

    7. Dr.Doo 72 months ago | reply

      great interpretation of a feeling here....i can only concur with what others are saying...do what you can so you don't hate yourself....don't let the bastards grind you down mate!!

    8. jk5854 72 months ago | reply

      Thanks everyone for the advice. Finding middle ground is proving to be tough, but it's possible I think. Just gonna try to be the better person and not let these bastards get to me so much.

    9. thp365 72 months ago | reply

      THIS HAS TOTALLY BEEN HAPPENING WITH ME LATELY!

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    10. jenindeed 72 months ago | reply

      Juli, you are awesome! Nothing wrong with speaking your mind to others. Embrace that growth within you.

      And, ow! How did the peeling of the tape go?

    11. jk5854 72 months ago | reply

      - Sucks, don't it!? :)

      - Thanks, Jen. And the tape peeling wasn't too bad... gotta know the trick in getting it off properly :)

    12. RW ©™ [deleted] 72 months ago | reply

      You look like you need a hug. :-)

      Just continue to keep it real--and never become anybody's doormat.

    13. jk5854 72 months ago | reply

      - Right on! Afterall I have to live with myself, not them. :)

    14. Queersilver 72 months ago | reply

      i think this is a literal representation of all our silenced rainbow voices

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