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Day 179: God Hates Fags, But I Love You.

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Memories are funny to me... How they just appear out of nowhere fascinates me.

This morning while showering, out of nowhere I thought back to 3 days after my fathers funeral...

I got a call from the funeral home saying there was a letter there for me. Without a thought I went down and picked it up. To my surprise it was a "letter" from some "anonymous" party saying since my father's passing I should reconsider my lifestyle and "go straight, lead the path of righteousness, and become a daughter of God. "

I really couldn't believe it. Not that that I couldn't believe it was happening, but rather, I couldn't believe how anonymous it was. After all, I have the guts to live my life so openly. Everyone around me was outraged by this letter, but I was just trying to wrap my mind around it.
How could someone who was clearly a part of my fathers life send this to me knowing how much he loves me?
How inconsiderate could they be to send it so soon?
How IDIOTIC could they be to think I'd actually take anything they had to say into consideration?
Did they REALLY think it would change my mind?

I should take this time I say I have not seen discrimination the same way some of my friends have. I know I am so very lucky for this. And while I see some of these words on my board as being "accepted" by the community, when they come from a hurtful place it's not OK. And this doesn't start and end with gay terms... but anything.

I am by no means an activist, but I truly believe in my heart of hearts we are all equals and to judge someone by their color, creed, religion, sexual orientation, age, gender or anything else for that matter is just plain stupid.

This may be my inner hippy, but I truly wish everyone could just get along for fucks sake!

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  1. jk5854 84 months ago | reply

    - Haha, Mo from DTWOF!!!!! I can totally see that!! :)

  2. krisphan [deleted] 84 months ago | reply

    WTF
    How could someone wrote such letter! If I were you, I'd find out who wrote it and I'd kick his/her arse to Antarctica. When will those idiots learn that everyone has rights to do what they want.

    Great selfportrait, btw. Dynamic, emotional & well communicate with the viewers. I love it.

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  3. RW ©™ [deleted] 84 months ago | reply

    I'm in full agreement, and sending an anonymous letter like that to you is both cowardly and fucktardish.

    I love the picture, too!

  4. jk5854 84 months ago | reply

    - Hahaha, a good arse kickin to Antarctica might do the trick! only, I'd probably get distracted by pretty colors along the way and forget what I was doing :) And thank you very much!!

    - Thanks Nubi! People are idiots, what can I say... and fucktardish is an excellent word! I might have to steal it! :)

  5. MOVED TO PIXELENS FOLLOW ME THERE! [deleted] 84 months ago | reply

    Great pic, powerful statement - like the selective color too...

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  6. dtarpennation 84 months ago | reply

    Fucktardish?! Ha! I love it - it's my new favorite word!

  7. Dr.Doo 84 months ago | reply

    jk i'm so sorry you had this experience from someone who should be practicing tolerance not bigotry...who should be loving not judgemental.

    the best revenge in such cases?......living life well and to the full!!! :o)

  8. jk5854 84 months ago | reply

    - Thank you very much. :)

    - Right on! I agree, living life to the fullest is the best revenge!

  9. thp365 84 months ago | reply

    I love this SP so much it hurts.... it's powerful. I'm not really a pride-kinda-guy, but thats just fucking ridiculous... and I do call people when they're being shitheads about this kinda stuff. I have a similar though different idea.... Gotta make it happen soon. When I'm done being really lazy.

  10. Amy76 84 months ago | reply

    Im so sorry of what you had to live, when u was really down, but u know something???? u have the courage to be who u are, to be proud of it, and maybe that anonymous letter, maybe is from a repressed guy or girl, and maybe is so gay too, beautiful picture, its powerful, and G-d love all of us, no matter what!!!!!!

  11. jk5854 84 months ago | reply

    - Ohh I can't wait to see what You've got cookin' in that mind of yours.

    - Thank you very much for the nice words :)

  12. ANVRecife 84 months ago | reply

    Amazing concept and great picture. I 'm straight, but it doesn't mean that I only see my lifestyle as the right one. I do hate people that are narrow minded and not open to other ideas. Congrats on being authentic and true to what you believe! The world could be a much better place if we learn to accept people and ideas as they are.

  13. jk5854 84 months ago | reply

    - Thanks! I agree, it doesn't matter what you look like or who you sleep with... I just wish everyone could co-exist with one another.

  14. Ari Hahn 84 months ago | reply

    Where I come from (Orthodox Jewish) God does NOT hate anybody.
    I want to tell you a true story. Many years ago I was in the Israeli army, officers training course. There was a religious soldier who had the responsibility of making sure that all the food was up to proper religious standards. I was friendly with him. He was gay. That didn't bother me, except when he tried to come on to me. I told him that I'm married and not interested. We stayed friends. But I was troubled by the idea that a person who openly behaved in a way that is not condoned by the religion was in charge of the religious aspect of the food I was eating. So I asked a (very prominent) rabbi what I should do. He told me to trust him since he is no different than anybody else. He asked me if I do everything according to the rules, which of course I don't. So, he told me, in God's eyes you are just like him. I learned that for religion to make any sense there is no real difference between one person and another, that only God can be a true judge, and just because I don't agree with somebody's life style and choices that doesn't give me the right to judge that person in anyway. Because anybody can love someone that they are in sync with. But to love people who you disagree with is divine.

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  15. jk5854 84 months ago | reply

    - Thank you for sharing your story. Unfortunately not everyone sees things this way. While I personally believe that God or any other higher being does NOT hate anyone, extremist believe this hate to be true. So much so they feel it is their duty to force this hate and physical harm onto those that don't fit their mold. This does not start or end with gay-vs-straight as I'm sure you know. People are persecuted everyday for their religious beliefs, gender, age, color, background and the list goes on.

  16. Lima*Beans [deleted] 83 months ago | reply

    Brilliant!!! Sorry someone acted like such a coward... as if that wasn't a hard enough time for you already. I was raised by my mother and her lover. I can't say I know 'exactly 'where you are coming from, but I can relate to the hateful words and judgment.

    Sometimes people just suck.

  17. jk5854 83 months ago | reply

    - Sometimes people do just suck... I think it's in our nature :) But what can ya do... other than try to move forward and not let things like this get to you I suppose. :)

  18. TwistYourThumbs 79 months ago | reply

    Love the message.
    I understand.
    Completely.

  19. kleiner tiger [deleted] 78 months ago | reply

    amazing picture!
    and your message is so important.

  20. shek@h 69 months ago | reply

    God hates the sin but loves the sinner
    all sin is equal in god's eyes
    he loves gays and straights equally
    and i'm straight and I'm saying this

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