My Grandmother's glasses

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    Born in 1898, I think about all that she saw through these. She wore them as long as I can remember - they're in all the shots of her from when I was a kid, right through 1983, when she passed away.

    She was the first generation of our family on my mother's side that was born in America. Her parents lived through the Potato Famine in Ireland before they came to the states, but died in the flu epidemic around WW 1. One of her brothers and her sister lived in the US, and her oldest brother went to Australia and stayed there, serving in their army in WW I.

    She had five children - my Mom, my aunt and my three uncles - and took in two others to her apartment when they were young women and needed a place to live. She raised them all as a single parent after her husband left then died, sometime in the 30's.

    She worked at Bond Crown and Cork as a bottle cap inspector, and it made her pretty deaf early on, but she would never go for a hearing aid. She would bring back reject caps for me and my cousins to play with. She took two busses to get to work and back, but when she got older, my Dad would pick her up and give her a ride home, because he was working second shift then.

    She lived with my parents after they bought their first and only house in 1949, a semi-detached row house in Wilmington, Delaware. One of my uncles lived there for most of my life, too, and my father's father for a while. Add me and my brother and it was a full house and a good life.

    Every Saturday, when I was a kid, we would take the number 10 bus (Delaware Avenue) downtown to see an afternoon movie. There were six theatres there then. My favorite was a great art deco place, called the Warner. After the movie we would walk around downtown for a while, then have dinner at Govatose's, in the little tap room around back that had about six seats at the bar, three booths and two tables. Her friend, Mae, was the barmaid, and it was a pleasant little room, maybe 15' or 20' X 20', tops.

    We would always get a booth, usually the same one. It's probably why I always ask for a booth in restaurants, but I never really thought of that until just now. We would always get hamburgers - they made great ones in the restaurant - with chips and a pickle on the side. I would have a Coke and she would have a Piels beer in a tall glass, her favorite.

    We would watch Sea Hunt with everyone on the TV above the bar, then it was time to catch a bus or a cab back home. By the time we got cross town - not really far, I walked it often - the Jackie Gleason show was wrapping up.

    We would also go to Atlantic City for a week in the summers, back when it was a beach resort and not a casino place. We stayed in the Normandy Hotel, ate all of our meals out, which I thought was pretty exotic, beach during the day, and then we would go to the Steele Pier and walk the boardwalk at night. We saw the famous diving horse a lot of times, and once we were on the Grady and Hurst dance program that was live TV back to Philly.

    There was a Planter's Peanuts shop on the boardwalk, with big Mr. Peanut figures attached to the roasters in the windows, looking like their arms were cranking them around and around. She used to go back with her sister to watch the Miss America pagent when it was there, too.

    My parents had their date night on Saturdays when I was in junior high school and high school, and we would have minute steaks on bread for dinner every week, then watch The Prisoner TV show on public television. After that she'd watch Lawrence Welk. After a while her eyes got too bad to see how the steaks were done, so we had to hang around the kitchen while she made them, because when they burned they'd really smoke the place up. I'm pretty sure she knew why we did it, but she never let on.

    She would only put her teeth in for pictures. I don't think they fit too well. She could eat subs on hard rolls though, and almost anything else, without her teeth. She must have has really tough gums.

    After she retired, laundry became her full-time job. She washed everything as soon as you took it off. The year I was turning 20 I worked as a greenskeeper at a golf course, and she washed my jeans every night. At the end of the year you could pull the fabric apart with your fingers. I played a lot of tennis then, and you had to wear white. Nobody's whites were as white as mine, I promise you - even my canvas Jack Purcell's.

    My mom had a lot of operations when I was a little kid, and you stayed in the hospital a lot longer then. I was remarkably close to my grandmother, maybe because of that, but probably because she was such a great person.

    She lived to see my wedding in 1981, and two years longer after that. My only regret is that my son never got to know her. I'm sure my mom was such a great grandmother to him because of everything she saw and lived.

    My Dad used to go to her grave every Saturday as long as he could still drive, and trim the grass around her marker with clippers and fill the urn with fresh flowers. He and my Mom are buried right next to her.

    Here's to you, Grandmom - your glasses are still in the living room, and we never pack them away. Every time we see them, we see you.

    areyarey, Mayr, tonyhall, and 4 other people added this photo to their favorites.

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    1. jungleorkid [deleted] 87 months ago | reply

      Wow.....

      xox

    2. Black Dust a.k.a. odonbd 87 months ago | reply

      Great post! Literally. And very literally, too.

    3. blueiris2006 87 months ago | reply

      Earl - lovely and touching story! My grandmother was born in 1898 also, so this made me think of her, too. Thank you :)

    4. tonyhall 87 months ago | reply

      Your black & white photo of a pair of glasses seems so ordinary, until you tell the story - your 1000 words. It's rare to get a story like this on flickr .. or maybe their is a 'family history' group!? I was capivated and inspired, writing is so important, especially when it's personal and meaningful.

    5. ~josielle 87 months ago | reply

      Great photo & wonderful story to go along with it! Truly wonderful!

    6. Earl - What I Saw 2.0 87 months ago | reply

      You're right - I love the ones I heard, and I re-tell them to our son . . .
      Thank you. It was a busy week, and it's good to catch up with things today!
      Thnaks very much, Leah!
      Thank you - and for the fave add, too!
      Thanks, Esther - B/W is fun to experiment with!

    7. Earl - What I Saw 2.0 87 months ago | reply

      Thanks so much!
      Thank you Silvia - I believe you are right, too!
      It seems so long ago, but I am connected to it through her. It makes me think, sometimes . . .
      Thanks, Mayr - I posted the shot, then I started writing. I ended up adding things after I thought about it, too . . .
      Thanks, Twig - and thanks for the idea about printing it out. I hadn't thought about doing that. Thank you!

    8. Earl - What I Saw 2.0 87 months ago | reply

      Thank you - it fells funny to know that I was one of the things seen through them, too . . .
      Stalkers are always welcome to Planet Flickr - and your stuff looks great, too. Debbie enjoyed it all this morning, especially about the 15 minutes of snow!
      She was special, in a lot of ways. Thanks!
      Thanks, Melissa - I will!

    9. Earl - What I Saw 2.0 87 months ago | reply

      Thanks for the thoughts - and for seeing her, too . . .
      Thank you on both levels!
      Thanks, Ninjin - she was a wonderful person, and lived her life well!
      Thanks very much - I'm glad you saw it and read it, too!
      That's a special connection to people and a time. It's great to share them!
      Thanks, Tony - it felt like I had to write something instead of simply letting the picture speak for itself. I think it ended up being an illustration for the post. Thanks for the kind and encouraging word, and for the fave, too. Thank you!
      Thanks so much - we were close, and it was nice to share her and here story here, too!

    10. Lord Cuauhtli 87 months ago | reply

      Thanks for the large description!! those glasses are just great!!!! ha ha ha

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    11. Earl - What I Saw 2.0 87 months ago | reply

      Thank you very much - and for the fave and the hugs vote, too. Thanks!

    12. Free2bJ.C.♡Photos 86 months ago | reply

      I love everything about this :)

    13. ~Josie~ 86 months ago | reply

      Wow. Amazing story and post and I cant thank you enough for sharing it. Its great to go back in time sometimes and truly better define who we are today and why. YOu were very blessed and that makes me smile..

    14. Earl - What I Saw 2.0 86 months ago | reply

      Thanks, JC - I still think about her often, and tell stories about her. Glad you liked it!
      Thank you, Josie - I think you're right, I was very blessed, and it's fun that it made you smile!

    15. aluvendale 86 months ago | reply

      Wow, my mother has her grandmother's glasses sitting out in the living room as well. They rest on the original case, and an old book she used to read. They look almost identical to those. Brings back memories.

    16. espressoDOM 86 months ago | reply

      i love this shot...in B*W ... memories...its all we keep forever protect your memory

    17. Earl - What I Saw 2.0 86 months ago | reply

      Nice that it has a good memory connection for you, too. Thanks for telling me!
      Thanks, Dom. I really hope I live long enough to be a grandparent. I'd love to get a shot at it!

    18. uvearte 86 months ago | reply

      What a nice moody pic...make me dream about my Grandpa... like the story you tell us...Well Done***

    19. Allie's.Dad 86 months ago | reply

      Very touching story. The world changes she witnessed will always be greater than any generations since in my opinion. The automobile, Flight, Space travel, T.V. And so much more...Medicine and health knowledge. Geeeze! I remember the stories My grandfather told before his passing in 1982. It's nice you have the glasses as a keepsake and to remind you of her in todays harried world. thank you for sharing this!

    20. Jerry Lee Que IV [deleted] 81 months ago | reply

      Hi, I'm an admin for a group called Black & White Photos, and we'd love to have your photo added to the group.

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