"...And then, by touching deeply, I know that brother or that sister is myself. It's not someone that I have to confront. I should not worry about how to face him or her, or how to be nice to him, or to her. Maybe we have an idea that that person may think we are distant, we are cold, so we worry a little bit. We should not do so. We should not think like that, because we know that the best thing we can offer him or her is our mindfulness, our joy. So be joyful, and be mindful, and that is the greatest gift you can offer to him or to her.
And when you come close, and if your eyes meet, continue to practice. You don't have to confront- breathe in, 'Breathing in, I calm myself, breathing out, I smile'. You do it. And if you have full mindfulness in you, that's the best thing you can do. And we communicate with each other with our mindfulness, not with anything else. We should not worry about whether I am warm enough, to him or to her, I am sympathetic enough to him or to her, just be mindful, and that is already the best."
Notes from the lectures of Thich Nhat Hahn, October, 1993
File Name: Touching the Ultimate Dimension