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    It's always been hard for me to explain what i mean. To find the right words that get through from me to the recipient. From the reactions i could tell that what i said or wrote was not what arrived at the other side. I used to try and find other words, try other ways of communication, show, speak, write without success. It was killing me cause everything just got worse. Trying to be understood just made the others go crazy. I should have better kept my mouth shut sometimes or put some mails, sms, letters in the trashcan instead of sending them to avoid misunderstanding, fights and pain.

    My posture, gestures and facial expression always seem to have added to being misunderstood. I am a shy and quiet person, distant and reserved to those I don't know. It's some kind of shelter i adopted over the years - not arrogance. I look from far and make myself a picture, trust comes later, very late sometimes. Sometimes it doesn't come at all. But it's no selfishness. I care a lot about other peoples wealth, health and good mood. I'd give away almost everything to see some people be happy .
    Those that have been interested to know what's behind my "mask", behind my skin, know that I don't ever mean and I don't even like to look sad or mean, arrogant or selfish. Those that have asked the right questions came to know that I am a very warm-hearted man with a lot of love and energy to give. Those that showed real interest have made a real good friend, one they can rely on, one that can be trusted. But also one that can not being taken for granted.

    I know now that i still have a lot to learn concerning communication. But it's always a two-sided thing. There must be a will to understand on the recipients side. Not only a will to be understood within the senders mind and heart.

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    1. assbachs-old-account 92 months ago | reply

      Thank you also Avril, hope you're feeling better today?!

    2. ~Chels~ 92 months ago | reply

      Love this!

    3. ciemor 92 months ago | reply

      What an incredibly artistic expression.I too have an intense nature that sometimes can be mis-read by others ( do we really have to go around smiling all the time?).Their lack of willingness to understand me shows me how shallow a person can be--leads to much mis-communication. My friends are those who are always there for me and with my intensity I give my all to them. These are the ones who were not afraid to look beyond my mask of years--like you!
      Great work!

    4. assbachs-old-account 92 months ago | reply

      The point is you have to find out who is a real friend and who is not... that can be painful sometimes!

      Thank you ciemor and Chels! :-) Have a good day!
      And thanks for all the faves people! I feel honored! :-))

    5. wimdejonge 92 months ago | reply

      catching up on your stream, i bumped into this jewel :-)

      you concerns are well worded, and well shown in the image

      it's often funny... the nicest, most caring people are most concerned about communicating well, whereas the ignorant (not meant as a judgement, some people just don't *know* how to communicate well) just bluntly follow their path regardless of others

      most people are not communication experts, and that is just fine. as long as we are willing to listen to one another, any communication barrier can be worked out

      sascha, from what i have seen of you, there's sincerity in the way you communicate your feelings, daily frustrations, current events in your life, struggles with your mind that doesn't seem to wanna do what you want it to do... and it's all good. good intention, sincerity... that is what counts, more than anything

      (and if you want some friendly advice... frown less :-) it lowers stress levels immediately)

    6. assbachs-old-account 92 months ago | reply

      I know Wim, i know, but it's just easier said than done. I am still on a good way... i feel it! Thank you for your long and true comment!

      Thanks Alex! :-)

    7. / No to censorship [deleted] 89 months ago | reply

      Agreed with the words and love the shot!
      I haven't learned the to master all traps of communication either. I'm not shy, rather too impulsive and too trusty. But I learned my lessons as well. But the human nature is, always to fall in the same traps again. No matter how often we say: Never again
      I think, we never stop learning and so we will never stop biting our own a*** for doing it again ;)

    8. assbachs-old-account 89 months ago | reply

      Thank you Nicole :)

    9. kabdu68 87 months ago | reply

      This is a great photo. You should submit it to Carpe Diem Theme Thursday as this week's theme is COMMUNICATION and your photo suits the topic very well.

      Here is a link:

      Carpe Diem Admin

    10. assbachs-old-account 87 months ago | reply

      thanks a lot Khaled,
      do i have to put it there before or on thursday??

    11. kabdu68 87 months ago | reply

      You have to put it there before Thursday as we start a new Theme Thursday every week. Looking forward to seeing it (and you) there.


    12. michael.heiss 87 months ago | reply

      Hi, I'm an admin for a group called Eye Catcher for Visualizations in Powerpoint Presentations, and we'd love to have your photo added to the group.

      Great photo with great words!
      Would be very good for visualizing complex communication.
      Would be great if you would become a member of our group as many of your photos are good for visualizations of emotional terms.

    13. agnisflugen 70 months ago | reply

      Hi, I'm an admin for a group called unrequited love., and we'd love to have this added to the group!

    14. assbachs-old-account 61 months ago | reply

      @InBonobo hey, thanks for letting me know!

    15. CellPlaza 57 months ago | reply

      I wrote a blog about how technology is interfering with how we communicate with others while actually being with them. Your image speaks volumes. At initial glance, I already knew what your words were going to say. Maybe you should become a mute and simply communicate through your awesome images.

      The blog can be found at: Uninterrupted Communication

    16. assbachs-old-account 57 months ago | reply

      @CellPlaza thank you for using my pic, your comment and linking back.

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