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Wedding Wishes for barest_smidgen and zeitgeist!

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samatwitch says:

Since there is now less than three weeks until their 'North American' wedding, I thought we should have a thread where we can post our good wishes, toast the happy couple - and even post some advice for marital bliss, if you have any. :D

I'll start.

To barest_smidgen and zeitgeist, our first official Whedonesque couple:

May your wedding day dawn glorious and get better from there. I know that you will be surrounded by your loved ones, but know that love from many parts of the world will be joining them and you as you celebrate each other and acknowledge to the world your love for one another.

We have become a close-knit 'family' on this board and a lot of it is due to you two. You have allowed us to share your good times and bad times, and that is what friends and family do. We are all richer for having you in our lives, and we thank Joss for that.

You know that life won't be the 'happy ever after' that comes in fairy tales, but you also know that that's what makes the good times so special and you know how to appreciate them when you have them and face the not-so-good times together.

May your good times outweigh the bad times by a wide margin and may you always face life with humour, love and the knowledge that you have each other.

*raises glass*

Gayle
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Willowy says:

Angels:

To the love you already share,
To the sharing with us you give so generously.

To the generosity of spirit that infuses you both,
To the sacrifices you both have made.

To the obstacles you've overcome,
To the strength you'll call on for the future.

To the simplicity that makes you happy,
To the complication that life allows.

An enormous and gihugic shout out for the wave of well-being that you give every person on this board - may it always and forever come back to you four-fold. In triplicate. Then doubled.

You are sublime. I love you as my own. Happy, strong days to you, now and forever.

CHEERS!
Tari
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saltygoodness702 says:

Oh, Samatwitch, what a fabulous thread! (finally someone had the good sense to think of it :) I am ALL for an extended chance to celebrate these two, a "jubilee" if you will (barest, I stole that one from you! And have taken to using it often...:)!

I have a heart full of boundless wishes and blessings to send you both. I believe that you two have found that one person in eachother that makes every moment of life more meaningful. I don't know how I could wish for you anything more than you have already found, except for the inevitable depth of your bond that will strengthen day after day. It is true; though you can't imagine how you could be any closer than you are today, as time goes by you will be closer, deeper, better, and that is the greatest and most fulfilling gift.

As for advice, I don't think you need much, for you both have shown us all through your honest and generous sharing on this board that you have each learned so much from your collective past experiences; knowledge that has brought you to this point and will help you make the most of the time to come. I am confident that you will both appreciate eachother and give back to the world, and become even more resplendent people as a union than you already are! However for the sake of the thread, here goes: If I had to attribute one thing to the success of my phenomenal marriage, it is that we are both willing to communicate completely openly; which includes apologizing when we are wrong or were misunderstood, and listening to a perspective no matter how stubborn we feel like being. We deal with all issues at the moment that they occur and leave no baggage to pile up in the proverbial closet. Our closet floor is clean and filled with love, adoration, respect, and consideration for one another and that is what helps us get through the inevitable struggles and pain that life sometimes brings.

Happiest of days to you as you prepare for your next ceremony and much love! I admire you two so much and feel as happy for you as if you were my dearest friends. This is so hard to explain to my real-life friends and family who are perplexed by the closeness I feel to this board...

love and hugs!
Rachel
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bloodflowers says:

I don’t think it is possible to be happier for both of you!

You’ve been generous and brave enough to share so much with us and it feels like the easiest thing in the world to wish you all the love and happiness you can hold because we know you will graciously accept it and turn right around and share it with anyone who might be in need of some of their own.
You inspire hope that two complete individuals can come together as a whole and yet still remain themselves. You show that trust and an open heart can start a chain reaction of beautiful things. You prove that out of some of the darkest times the strongest lights can grow brighter. You were meant to find each other.

I wish you a serenely blissful, laughter and excitement filled, bursting-at-the-seams with love “Wedding pt. 2”--and the best wedding photos ever!

peace and love,
Joanne
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barest_smidgen says:

I'm so sheepish about the fact that so many threads here are about Damon and I and look forward to getting back to all the things that are going on with you guys -- but am all grinny, hungrily reading your thoughts and counsel. Hoping our seemingly endless gushing of thank-yous hasn't grown tiresome. Hoping it still feels sincere and rings true, because, seriously... could there be more giving or lovely thoughts than the ones above? I think about the wedding cards I've dashed off in the past -- even to people I'm close to -- with a couple of generic lines about happiness and lives filled with love. And then you guys go and do this.

We think the world of you, so when you say such generous and complimentary things, and when you really seem to get us in a way that even in-person friends don't always -- well, it's just the coolest thing I know. Has it ever happened to you? Someone you wildly admire and really enjoy thinks there's something special about you? Heady stuff, that.

So, thank you, dear Gayle, for always being the first to celebrate everything for everyone in this place. You teach us all how to be more thoughtful and loving. And to the Amazon, Tari -- as always, I'm both moved and fired-up by your words. Rachel -- you have an uncommon grace and an uncommonly gorgeous partnership with your husband and we'll always be thankful to learn from both. And Joanne -- you have such insight, such an eye for the details of everything going on here and around you, and so if you say this looks good to you, then we're grateful, and ready to believe it.

I am all sorts of crazy happy as this particular day approaches and as this life-long adventure continues. It somehow means more to me with friends such as you. Thank you -- for real.

And by-the-by...literally nothing to do with the wedding is complete... everything is still in progress, up in the air, to be determined, decided, contracted for, paid for -- and somehow, I'm unworried. I'm wildly in love with the coolest man I could ever imagine. The rest is just details.
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samatwitch says:

And by-the-by...literally nothing to do with the wedding is complete... everything is still in progress, up in the air, to be determined, decided, contracted for, paid for -- and somehow, I'm unworried. I'm wildly in love with the coolest man I could ever imagine. The rest is just details.

As it should be! :D
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Madhatter_ says:

My love towards you, I promise everything in my heart.

In days that we disagree, we'll bump heads,

Could we please talk it out.

In the days oy money, is that the state?

No, I want your love.

Ah, so money!

NO!! I want you.

Y'sure?

Yes!

BTW, TWA was a wonderful screen from the '30's. Take a guess?
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Madhatter_ says:

Oh, just wanted to tell Willow "Hi"!
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Mikokitty says:

Well, I am not nearly the wordsmith that so many of my fellow W-esqers are, but that does not make my sentiments any less heartfelt.

May your lives be blessed, may peace reign and love flourish forever in your journey together.

Love,
Melanie
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palehorse says:

Oh, wow, it's been a few days since I have been over here. What a wonderful thread. I cannot come close to matching the beautiful posts above, but I could not be happier for the two of you. Your joy in each other is captivating and inspirational, and the rest of us bask in its radiance. My heart lifts every time I read your posts or see your pictures.

May your second wedding be as wonderful and unique as the first! And may your lives together be long and peace-filled, your hands and hearts forever entwined.

*hugs*
Karen
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Lionesss says:

I spent time searching for Wedding Wishes, since I too lack the words.
Your courage and your openness and your love are an inspiration to us all.
May you continue to discover that the details don't matter!
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Harmalicious says:

Here is a beautiful, Indian love poem I found. Congrats you guys!!
love,
Beth

I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times,
In life after life, in age after age forever.
My spell-bound heart has made and re-made the necklace of songs
That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms
In life after life, in age after age forever.

Whenever I hear old chronicles of love, its age-old pain,
Its ancient tale of being apart or together,
As I stare on and on into the past, in the end you emerge
Clad in the light of a pole-star piercing the darkness of time:
You become an image of what is remembered forever.

You and I have floated here on the stream that brings from the fount
At the heart of time love of one for another.
We have played alongside millions of lovers, shared in the same
Shy sweetness of meeting, the same distressful tears of farewell-
Old love, but in shapes that renew and renew forever.

Today it is heaped at your feet, it has found its end in you,
The love of all man's days both past and forever:
Universal joy, universal sorrow, universal life,
The memories of all loves merging with this one love of ours-
And the songs of every poet past and forever.

-Rabindranath Tagore
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saltygoodness702 says:

Oh, Harm, you made my night. I love Rabindranath Tagore. What a perfectly fitting poem and a gift for all of us.
You are such a thoughtful dear!
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samatwitch says:

What a lovely poem, Harm and as saltygoodness said, how fitting.
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barest_smidgen says:

So there I was shivering in my tomato-covered underthings after a pantry shelf full of salsas and bruschettas crashed onto my head, clothing, counter and the floors, raining lumpy oily tomato-y glass all over me and everything else in this zip code. I was over-tired and headachey from a night in Philly for my shower, and grousing that I had agreed to go out again tonight to attend a charity auction/fashion show that our vet's wife is producing, an hour+ into the hinterlands of western Jersey.

The horrid nor-easter storm that's ripped through this area has flooded our town, closed many roads, (and made my critical trip into NYC for wedding dress fitting today impossible -- when i went to my last fitting, the designer slapped me for losing too much weight in India and shredded the dress in front of me, saying "Dahling -- now we must start over. This dress was to emphasize an area which is no longer worthy." ) So, I've really never seen my dress and having no fitting today, means I'll have to try to get there Wednesday for last-call, and then find time to make the 3 1/2 hour drive again Friday -- the day before the wedding -- and cross my fingers that it's good. /sigh.

So, I plopped down dejectedly, picking eggplant out of my hair, still shivering and meaning to grab a bathrobe and click on a bookmark for work, but accidentally opened the flickr link. Saw the latest wonderful wishes from you sweet souls here, including the poem from Harm, and all was suddenly right with the world again. Beautiful, beautiful stuff. Thank you. (Had we seen it sooner, I have no doubt we would have used parts of that for the long-sought readings!) Thank you for reminding me that a day full of mishaps, natural disasters and free-flying chunky chipotle is still the best day ever, when you are deep down soul-happy.

And in the spirit of sharing the pretty words of others, here's some selections from George Eliot's Adam Bede that we pulled together to use for a reading:

"How is it that the poets have said so many fine things about our first love, and so few about our later love? Are their first poems their best? Or are not those the best which come from their fuller thought, their larger experience, their deeper-rooted affections? … What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life — to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?"

Hope you likey. (Damon is still working on some behind the scenes techno-wizardry to try to connect us with a few far-flung friends on the day itself. Stay tuned, if you're so inclined...)
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bloodflowers says:

Please excuse my giggling as I ‘virtually’ help clean up tomato and olive oil before it stains (sorry, I think it was the “free-flying chunky chipotle”). It’s not funny at all, of course, especially with broken glass involved, but now I think the “it could be worse” has happened. I hope fish sauce was not involved.
And if it takes Mother Nature herself to try to balance out all your happiness with a little “I’ll show ‘em who’s boss!” then you really must have something good!
The dress sounds like it's being fashioned by that little Edith Head-like character from The Incredibles! I know it will come together like magic and the preparations will all fall into place. Here's to time standing still for a moment in the whirl of happiness for you two who are the two.
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saltygoodness702 says:

Barest, I was thinking of you when I heard on the news this morning that New Jersey is now in a state of emergency from the flooding...dear oh dear, I hope this storm ends soon! And I hope no damage will be sustained at the various places where you will be celebrating this weekend.

I'm sorry to say that your description of your week did make me giggle...I CAN imagine how stressed and busy you are right now and that always seems the time for personal disasters to take place such as the oily tomato dripping debacle that you described so well. Those things never happen on weeks where you have little to do and much time to mop up.

And I'm still smiling because you shared George Eliots poem that I know so well, indeed hubby and I used it in our wedding invitations nearly six years ago! :)

Wishing you much peace this week....
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acp says:

oh dear.... I can totally picture the diastrous mess you described - and it's not pretty! As Saltygoodness said, these things always seem to happen at the worst of times. Still, your description made me chuckle :-)

It sounds like you have a crazy hectic week ahead of you, but - in my limited experience - these things always seem to come together somehow at the last minute. And in the end, it's the people and emotions and sentiment involved - and above all you and Damon - who are the important part of the celebration, and what you and your guests will remember for years to come. Plus, it wouldn't be a wedding if there wasn't a little crisis and last-minute disasters involved!

wishing you both so much joy and happiness - this week and on Saturday, which I'm sure will be a perfectly lovely celebration that's a true reflection of the spirit of your relationship, but more importantly for a lifetime of love and partnership. As George Eliot said so beautifully in that passage you quoted, it's really the later, deeper, fuller loves that are the most beautiful - and the two of you have found that. What a gift.
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Harmalicious says:

If anyone can make it work, you can. I've been thinking about you guys all week with this crazy weather.

"What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life" oh sigh...isn't that the truth? I remember the exact moment when I looked at my husband (boyfriend at the time) and new I loved him and would spend the rest of my life with him. 11 years later, I love him more and more.

You may all proceed to vomit.
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zeitgeist_1975 is a group administrator zeitgeist_1975 says:

:) Sorry I haven't had much time to jump in and respond, but rest assured that I am reading all of your too cool posts, too. Thank you so much for your sweet posts and thoughts and wishes!
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barest_smidgen says:

I was just scribbling some notes into my calendar, and realized that next week will be two years from the date when D & I first "spoke" to each other over on the black. (And I jokingly proposed, just one post later.) Had me revisiting the thread where it all began whedonesque.com/comments/6577#60603 and the follow-up thread where love was in the air, stories of relationships borne online and others hatched over things Whedon were shared, and several friends predicted that Damon and I would actually marry. Good fun. /motions with arm, all Andrew-like

Come with me now, as we revisit the LoveThread... whedonesque.com/comments/7467
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samatwitch says:

I was just thinking the same thing, barest. I was telling a friend about you two meeting online and realized it was around this time because it was when tickets went on sale for the May 5th preview screening. Seems like yesterday, and yet I feel as if I've known you guys forever. That's time for you - always playing tricks. ;-)

Did you get into the city for your fitting, barest?
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Harmalicious says:

Those are great threads to read....awww the memories. When I tried to jump in and take that ticket away from barest? Good times.

I must have been super busy on Love Thread day. I remember being pleasantly shocked one day when I got on a Flickr to find out that you guys were an item. And automatically taking blame for the whole thing of course :)

I've matched up two of my good friends. They are both Firefly fans, and I got them both to go see Serenity with me at the premiere in 2004. Now, I'm dedicating our Can't Stop the Serenity screening (I'm the coordinator) on June 23rd to them because they are getting married the next day. Yes, it is true. I am awesome.
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samatwitch says:

Way to go, Harm, awesome you are! (Both on co-ordinating the screening - I'm with you there - and matching up your friends.) Are they actually going to the screening? That would be dedication!
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Harmalicious says:

Oh ya!! Since they will have friends in town for the wedding, they are inviting everyone to come :)
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barest_smidgen says:

Well done, Harm! How exciting -- and good on you for being the screening coordinator, with everything else you do in your life. Wonderwoman, you. It's true. You're awesome. :)

z has been working away on web-cammy-goodness, but there are bandwidth limits and the like. So if anyone really gives a hoot, and feels like watching a darkened, grainy version of the wedding of people you've never seen before, but who like you a whole bunch, let one of us know, and we'll send you the log-in. (If we don't max it out, maybe we'll just post the link here later.)

Here's a picture of our little church where we're getting married tomorrow.
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lone fashionable wolf says:

What a beautiful place for the both of you to get married! It looks cosy and welcoming, a little bit like how I imagine the two of you!

I too, wish I could burst forth with wedding words for you both, but I can't do it better than those above. So, like others, I'll add a poem which I hope will bring you a smile.

"On Friendship" by Roy Croft
I love you, not for what you are, but what I am, when I am with you.
I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but what you
are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.

I love you for putting your hand into my heaped up heart and passing
over all the frivolous and weak things that you cannot help seeing
there, and drawing out into the light all the beautiful and radiant
things that no one else has looked quite far enough to find.

I love you for ignoring the possibilities of the fool in me, and for
laying hold of the possibilities of good in me.

I love you for closing your eyes to the discords in me, and adding
to the music in me by worshipful listening...

You have done it without a touch, without a sign. You have done it
by being yourself.


Love Lynne xx
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Madhatter_ says:

Oh barest, that's a beautiful setting for a wedding. We're so happy for the two of you!
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m'cookies actual says:

k & d: Well, I tried all week to come up with something original, heartfelt, and touching to say to you two regarding this happy occasion, but all I have pales in comparison to the beautiful thoughts expressed above!

But anyway, congratulations to two of my most favorite people I have never met (in person). And I wish you all the shared love, joy, and adventure you so richly deserve, forever and a day, and then some!

I'll be raising a perfectly brewed cup of Darjeeling to your darkened and grainy images tomorrow with a great big smile on my face and in my heart!

Love, Cora
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samatwitch says:

lfw, that's a beautiful poem and wonderfully fitting, I would think. One reason I'm not married, I guess - I couldn't settle for anything less than that. ;-).

I am so looking forward to 'being' at your wedding tomorrow, K & D, grainy images or not.

Best wishes for a sunny day - I know it will be warm, surrounded as you will be with the love of family and friends, from all corners of the world.
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onesnailshort says:

It's today!
I am hereby dedicating my bithday party as a celebration for my favorite couple. I would love to watch, but lack the tech. But I think I will stay up late to send extra strong love vibes and toast for our two love birds. ( I have hidden a small bottle of champagne just for this .)
Have a glorious day!

Many giddy hugs from Sweden, with extra bubbly love!

Ann-Louise

(Edit: Tearing up already, had to wipe the screen)
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catalyst2 says:

Wonderful to hear of the impending event - but how do we watch? Having travelled with this all the way since the famous "Love Thread". I don't want to miss the final event!
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samatwitch says:

onesnailshort, if today is your birthday, many happy returns of the day! (As Buffy would say, "What does that even mean?") What I mean is much happiness is being sent your way for today and many years to come.
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barest_smidgen says:

Oh, Lynne, that's so lovely -- thank you so much! I'm sure I've heard it somewhere before because I remember wanting to edit this line: "I love you for ignoring the possibilities of the fool in me" to "I love you for being a big fan of the possibilities of the fool in me." :)

And, Cora -- you often say that you don't have the lovely/fancy words to express something well... just before you say something beautiful. :) As always, thank you for your sweet and true friendship.

Ann-Louise -- I accept your giddy hug and raise you a jumping-up-and-down-while-hugging. :) Damon has made some changes to things that may mean humble technical set-ups can still have a go at it. If you want some last minute techie advice, he may be able to provide this morning.

And catalyst2 -- yay! So sweet of you to want to join us -- welcome to the party. Sent you the info via flickr mail.

Thanks again, as always, to Gayle for making this happy little place for us to bask in all your generous lovely wishes and support. This is us, basking. We're getting our bask on...

(Edited to add: And come Monday -- I promise -- we'll stop all this me-me-me-us-us-us stuff and get back to our regularly scheduled programming. acp's impending delivery, and the charity screenings, perhaps? Woohoo!)
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samatwitch says:

What a beautiful wedding and a lovely and loving couple! Thank you so much, Kara and Damon, for making it possible for us to feel part of your special day. I can't wait to see more pictures when you have them.

Blessings on you both.

Gayle
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Madhatter_ says:

First, zeitgeist and barest smidgen, you owe me a keyboard. My tears shorted this one out!

That was a beautiful wedding. You both were ......I'm a loss of words. smidgen's dress was stunning and your suit was GQ.

Thank you for allowing me to watch upon your special day. It was the sweetest emotion I've seen in years. Wishing you both the best of wishes.

Steve
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Harmalicious says:

I thought it was 6:30 central time, so I missed it. It just goes with this horrible day I've had so whatever....

K & D - Sorry I missed it :( Love you guys!
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samatwitch says:

*hugs*, Harm. We missed you. I'm sure they'll post pictures. There were lots of flashes going off.

Re your horrible day: anything we can do?
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Lionesss says:

So It's done? She's an honest woman at last? ;-) Congrats you two!
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Harmalicious says:

hugs to you too! Can't wait to see the photos!!!

Regarding what you could do, samatwitch....tie some of my employees and my child to a tree, leave them there for a couple of days. Just make sure to give them food and water, I'll get them later when I'm done being pissed off.
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samatwitch says:

Do you want them tied to the same tree? :D
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nursebobbi says:

Hey, Harm,

Sorry you had a bad day. I'm new here, but as I understand it, your child is not yet a teenager? Gee....so much to look forward to. I hear rumors from friends and relatives with teenagers.

Personally, I have no employees and no kids. Dogs...dogs are the way to go.

Take care,
Bobbi
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MySerenity1 says:

Sorry to be so late to the party! You guys know how loved you are around here, but I'll chime in anyways! Revisiting your first "interaction" on the black was such a touching moment--barest it's like you knew it was meant to be! Anyways, I won't bore you trying to come up with something articulate (especially naked and articulate) so I'll just say this: I've never met either of you in person, but I do to some extent feel like I know you both. I carry your story of love conquering all in my heart and wish you the absolute best.

Love, Bianca

ps, I can't wait for pictures either, so don't keep us in suspense!!
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saltygoodness702 says:

So sorry Harm about your day! We did miss you, but I bet there will be pics and maybe even a video :)

I know how you feel, my week was crappy too! Today made it all better though; yoga and then attending (because it really did actually feel like I was there!) the wedding of the year.

Thanks Kara and Damon for going to the trouble to link us in LIVE even, and thanks for always making us feel important. You really gave us a special seat at your wedding and it was meaningful to all of us. Seriously, there were tears. :)

And to my friends who were also there, that was really special to experience such an event WITH you and to be able to chat while things were happening. I felt not like an observer, but a participant with a meaningful investment surrounded by friends. Good stuff :)

And I've been meaning to say, I lurked DAILY on whedonesque for A YEAR before I joined because I am "so not the kind of person to meet people online" and for a couple years there I was consumed by Serenity and the release and everything surrounding it. I didn't post anything on the day that barest_smidgen first called out to the unassuming sweet zeitgeist, but I was there. Live. During the thread and everything, I completely remember watching that conversation and thinking it was memorable flirting (especially the simple "chicken."). I was just too shy to post, as usual. So it means a lot to see you guys come this far!

Thanks again!
xo, R
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Caroline is a group administrator Caroline says:

I'd fallen asleep on the couch earlier in the day and so there I was watching you guys get wed with a place of steaming seafood pasta and a glass of sparkly water at 11.30 in the evening. The food tasted great and the wedding was even sweeter. Blessings on the both of you!
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Madhatter_ says:

It was very special. I felt like I was there talking to friends. It was so thoughtful of barest smidgen and zeitgeist to share their moment with us. This will be my high for 2007.

saltygoodness, my story runs beside yours. After the Buffy bug bit, I quickly found myself lurking inside the best room on the 'net. It was only a matter of time before I felt drawn to the discussions of the very people within the room and I made friends with remarkable people. Best choice I made in my life!

I can still recall when barest smidgen stepped into the room. She was shy at first, but so smart and eager for a good discussion. I remember congratulating her for her byname. After that, we became friends and I looked forward to her opinion on whatever subject that drifted into the room.

zeitgeist and I met during some computer question listed on the board. I thought I knew computers, but after a few rounds with the z, I realized I was about 3 lightyears in the past. Gosh, I can't count the number of dumb questions I've asked zeitgeist in this past year, yet, he was always there with a sound answer.

When I finally realized these two were an item, I remember laughing and slapping myself in the forehead. Duh! They're perfect together.

We saw that love yesterday with the exchange of their vows and it was the sweetest thing I've seen. Best of wishes, barest smidgen and zeitgeist:)
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nixygirl says:

Best Wishes to my darling friends!

I logged on after the wedding had finished...damn my stupid not working out the times properly!

I'll catch up with the photos and vids.

I just wanted to wish the two of you the best for the future.

You've both always been a light for me...and today, you both warmed my heart a little more. I hope your lives are blessed with many days and lots of joy.
I'm soooo happy for you both!

Uber kisses and hugs from me...

I love you guys!

luvs nix
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catalyst2 says:

Hey nixy I did exactly the same thing - except I was another hour later than you were! I can't believe I missed it. Stupid multiple time zones (and even stupider Western Summer Time which we have had here for the first year ever!) Still, looking forward to the pictures when they do get posted.

Back to topic though - glad it went so well (for those of you who can actually count the time zones). Congratulations to zg + bs!
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palehorse says:

Well, I had to be traveling, so I missed it, too. (But there was never any hope that I would get to watch, unfortunately). Thus, I'm looking forward to the pictures, as well. Adding my congratulations to the two of you.
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bloodflowers says:

I am extremely disappointed I couldn't be there (here, sort of, but "there") but I was thinking about you all day, K+D. And everyone here ("here" being here) for that matter.

I'm at a loss for words that can truly express how wonderful it has been to scroll down through so many comments for best wishes and positive energies on all the looooove-related threads. The day may have come and gone, but now it's just the beginning of something even more special. Wheee!

Congratulations, best wishes and hugs and hugs. My heart is so full of happiness for you!!!
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Harmalicious says:

Ya, I'm dumb when it comes to time zones. sigh.
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Numfar PTB says:

I Just want send my best wished to Z and Barest, they who have such an important part of Whedonesque history.
I wish all the happiness in the world for you.

As an old chinese saying: till the day when both of you got white hair (白頭偕老).
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lone fashionable wolf says:

Hee, I got the time zones mixed up too, and sent zeitgeist a flickr mail apologising for missing it - only to log on afterwards and see the whole thing! Maths not my strong point...

Anyway, it was so wonderful to share it with people online - it's great to be at a wedding and talk the whole way through!
Thanks so much d + k, and congratuations! I got all excited to see your wedding wishes over on the black!
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barest_smidgen says:

What an incredibly cool feeling to know that you were there sharing this day with us! (And what a crappy feeling knowing that some of you who wanted to be there, weren't able to be. Boo hiss. /scowl) Thank you, though, friends. For everything.

Winding down (okay -- stumbling towards bed in happy exhaustion) from the day-after festivities, but wanted to throw a quick picture or two up in my flickr gallery while we wait for the "real" photos. Nothing too fancy, b/c all we have so far are the stack of polaroids and a few of these take-our-own-picture self-portraits from the wee hours of the morning as we headed for home -- some pics from the "real" photographer (a young art-school grad whose specialty is architectural photography and who has a penchant for vintage cameras) as soon as we get them. /hugs with gratitude. Sleep now...
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samatwitch says:

Beautiful pictures, barest. You both look so happy, even though you are tired. Thank you for sharing.
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onesnailshort says:

What a lovely couple!

I am happy and relieved to see that all went according to plans even though I wasn't able to oversee the ceremony. ( I'm sometimes a bit of a control xx, and have watched too many bad movies.) But I was cheering you on and toasting away all night and morning. Sunday was a bit of a blur, so I know I did a good job. I am SO happy for you.

You look so beautifully happy and content. I have such a good feeling about the two of you. Take good care of each other and of what you have, and it will last forever. Promise.

Now, kids, get on with you life together! Revel in it!
( Puttin' on my prettiest pumps, kickin' your behinds for luck and momentum.)
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catalyst2 says:

Those pictures are gorgeous - I hope to see more, especially for those people like me with that unfortunate disability, TZCD (Time Zone Conversion Disorder).
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jakestone007 says:

Oh bloody bollocking hell, missed it !

Seriously guys, massive congratulations, hope you had a brilliant time with much merriment, good friends and at least one incredibly embarrassing speech (what are skeletons in the cupboard for if not relating to an entire roomful of friends and relatives ;-). Lovely photos too.

Anyway, fair winds and following seas to you both.

Take care,

Ewan

P.S. i.e. Saje.

P.P.S. NOT Jake Stone. That's just my super secret spy name ... Hang on. Bugger.

(I'd tell you to make each other happy but I reckon you've totally got that covered ;)
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zeitgeist_1975 is a group administrator zeitgeist_1975 says:

Everyone (makes it sound awfully impersonal, but you all know who you are... I mean that in the literal and not the metaphoric or esoteric sense...),

Love reading your replies and they make the big happy even more uncontainable. Promise to have more pics up as soon as possible to share with you all and so sorry to have had some miss it :( After a rainy and generally iffy sort of week everything seemed to align and we had a beautiful weekend where things came together (some minor hurdles, but all taken care of in short order) wonderfully. And that's even before our lazy Monday where we saw Hot Fuzz and we were the only ones in the theatre (1:10 matinee). Our own private screening!

Thank you again for your patience, support, love, kind words, sticky toffee pudding (see how I tried to work that in there smoothly and failed? You are SO JEALOUS!), ---train of thought derailed.... Thank you for taking such an interest and being so sweet about our happy/sappy. You are the best! (around! Nothing's gonna ever keep you down, etc.)
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palehorse says:

z, I'm thinking you need a new updated avatar, one taken from one of those beautiful wedding portraits. Just a thought.
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samatwitch says:

I second that thought, palehorse. I love those pictures.
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zeitgeist_1975 is a group administrator zeitgeist_1975 says:

You are both 100% correct (or more, by volume). Rock rock on!

ETA - ta da!
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m'cookies actual says:

Dear Mrs. and Mr. Smidgen-Geist:

I was wondering if by some chance you were able to retain and read the simul-chat history during your webcast wedding? There were tears and joy and pretty cool stuff. So sorry some of us missed it, though.

Thank you for inviting us, and giving us some extra face time at the end. I yelled "HI!" but I don't think you heard me. /joke> I'm still smiling when I think about you guys. Very fantabulous.
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barest_smidgen says:

I LOVE "Mr. Smidgen-Geist." Or even "SmidgeGeist." Perfect! (Except, I maintain he's still fully his own man. :) ) I was just posting over on Gayle's blog how lousy I felt about only giving a shout-out to her by name. I wanted to thank her for everything, including the idea and then say thanks and hello to as many as i could remember, and suddenly, my newly-addled-by-marriage brain was filled only with screen-names, and I felt uncharacteristically self-conscious about hollering the nicknames out in church. /waves "Hi m'cookies, saltygoodness, madhatter, etc. ... it's barest_smidgen here all married and stuff. /sigh. Sorry for the stage fright... don't for a minute think that I wasn't thinking of each and every one of you, there or not.

And yes -- we printed out the chat transcript, climbed into bed around 2am, and read over it as we opened a handful of lovely gifts and cards. So fun to hear your real-time commentary -- much more fun than having to see a replay of ourselves, where we would no doubt get all embarrassed. (And for the record -- re: the wondering whether the soprano was swallowing the mic, she was the same distance to the webcam mic as the other singer and as we were... she's just that incredibly powerful, and with those acoustics, was probably more than the mic could bear. Did you have to turn off your sound? Such a shame... she's soooo good!
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Madhatter_ says:

barest, your wedding was absolutely glorious! You and Z are a picture that I will forever carry in my heart.
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acp says:

I wasn't able to be there for the webcast since I was traveling (last trip before my due date - feels like some sort of milestone!), but wanted to chime in with all the heartfelt wishes. It sounds like everything was lovely, the photos of you at the end of the evening capture total contentment, and you couldn't have had a more perfect weekend weather-wise. I'm so impressed, in the midst of everything else you had going on, that you took the time and made the effort to find a way to include even those of us who are your virtual cheerers-on! I look forward to seeing more photos and hearing more details.

But for now, just take a deep breath, relax, and enjoy each other's company - one of the best parts about married life (and non-married too, for those of us who moved in with each other before hand...) is the chance to spend so much time, both the momentous occasions and the trivial round-the-house relaxing and chores and whatever else, in the company of your best friend. I love that you got to have a private viewing of Hot Fuzz on your lazy monday together :-)

Here's to a wonderful, long, laughter- and adventure- and discovery- and love-filled life together!
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Nebula1400 says:

I don't know how I missed this whole announcement and discussion! Congratulations barest_smidgen and zeitgeist! It seems like only yesterday barest_smidgen was telling me about how she was going to meet zeitgeist for the first time, and you could tell she was floating on air (because her feet were not touching the ground).

Magical things happen in NJ. :)
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vera_flan says:

Barest and Zeitgeist - I've been following your journey through the last few weeks - meaning to come and write something here, but not being able to come up with anything more than Yay! Congratulations! which I mean wholeheartedly and not just in a trite not thinking kind of way. I was thinking about you last weekend, and think those are just the loveliest candid photos of the two of you - especially the one where Z is looking down, and you're looking right at the camera, Barest. :) Now the excitement of the last few months is passing, and you have a chance to breathe, I wish you all the best as you continue your life together.
-Gillian
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Madhatter_ says:

There you are! vera flan, we miss you in the room. Please join us. And, a happy birthday!
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barest_smidgen says:

Hey y'all -- this is the last bit about our wedding(s), I promise. Had a couple of requests for more photos, so here's a link to the galleries: picasaweb.google.com/karaalison (Best viewed in "Slideshow" mode with a 1-2 second delay so it's not an endless parade of pics.)

Having you behind us all this time and having some of you with us on the day itself was and is one of the best things about this journey to crazy happy of ours. My dad had a quadruple bypass right after the wedding that they didn't think he'd survive (he's doing well) and then I landed on a federal jury for a rather unsafe gang/drug trial. (Still ongoing.) Going right into this stuff without a honeymoon made the wedding almost disappear for us -- just too much going on to dwell or bask. Coming back to threads like these in the free moments helped the whole spirit of the thing continue. Thanks guys. :)
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saltygoodness702 says:

Thanks for sharing, sweetie! I hope things keep smoothing out and that you guys can have your honeymoon someday soon...though your whole time together seems quite like a honeymoon :) I've never met a couple so "in to" eachother (besides my own relationship :) as you guys. You guys just EXUDE love, lust, and adoration of eachother. Coolest of cool. Enjoy eachother despite the trials of life (accidental pun) and cheers to your dad for his amazing spunkiness! *hugs*
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acp says:

Wonderful photos, barest - thanks for sharing! You both (and all your guests) look incredibly happy. I'm so sorry real life had to intrude so quickly after the wedding (though I'm glad your dad is recovering well). It seems like everyone I know is landing on juries this spring, though most of them have had trials that just lasted a few days.
Will you eventually be able to take the honeymoon you want? Sometimes those delayed honeymoons can be just as good - if not better - giving you a chance to rediscover the pleasure of just each other's company and truly relax - not to mention go somewhere you're both dying to check out, that may not have been feasible for whatever reason right after the wedding.
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barest_smidgen says:

Aw, thanks guys. We just had the best weekend. Were hoping for some kind of wonderful, long trip in the fall... Santorini, Vancouver Island, Argentina, Croatia, etc., but it's hard for me to think that far ahead in this maddening stretch of no earnings. (I'm a consultant, so no workee, no payee.) Between India, the wedding (which we paid for), my dad, and now the endless jury duty, I think I've worked a total of 8 weeks this calendar year. Eek.

But, as if they knew what was coming in advance, my family planned a big joint wedding gift, each of them picking up different pieces of it. They're sending us on a little getaway to a gorgeous Vermont inn in October with gift certificates for the room, several restaurants, pubs, massages, horses, etc. Can't wait for Damon to see the New England foliage, and tour some organic cheese-making farms, etc. Very excited about that!
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zeitgeist_1975 is a group administrator zeitgeist_1975 says:

:D <-- that's all :)
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rua1412 says:

Late I know, but I didn't want to lose the chance to wish all the best in life guys!!!
I hope that your marriage will be the beginning of a very long series of splendid and endless moments. I wish you to not only be wife and husband, but to become accomplices, friends,and tripmates.
I wish you smiles and joy for the rest of your lives.

Hugs and kisses!!
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Numfar PTB says:

Barest those are some amazing pics from the wedding.
Hope your dad gets better.
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newCJ says:

Well I finally got here and found this. What great pictures. I am just sorry I missed everything.

Congratulations Zeitgeist and Smidge on finding such beautiful, caring and interesting partners...and having the good sense to marry them. The only problem is that in the pictures you both look underage. Are you sure all this is legal?
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barest_smidgen says:

Again, thanks all for your wonderful enthusiasm... kept me going when things were crappy. I just had to return to respond to newCJ's very sweet comment about us looking underage. (Your check is in the mail.) What a lovely thing to say and you're right about one of us looking too young. It's just definitively not me.

We're both in our 30's... zeitgeist, just barely, and me in my "lates," as they say. He gets carded everywhere we go, and automatically sold "student" tickets at the theatre, while I get asked about how often my "son" plans to wear his new suit when we go shopping, as "he'll probably grow out of it when he goes to college." /insert sad, old face here
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Madhatter_ says:

What?! In all this time, I was thinking z-man was robbing the cradle. Barest, I would've guessed 28 yrs. tops. What's your secret? Do tell.
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samatwitch says:

Barest, I can't believe anyone would think you were his mother!! I'm with Madhatter, you don't look a day over 28!
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nursebobbi says:

Barest, I agree that you both look quite youthful and that there's no way you look old enough to be his mom. I'm older than my husband of 25 years. We're currently in one of those periods where we're not in the same decade.
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newCJ says:

Huh? His mother? You both look like kids.

I know a couple who has this problem and are much older than you both. In that situation, however, he has a baby face and no grey hair and she loved the sun way too much most of her life. You guys look like you are the same age. Either you take an awfully good picture, Smidge, or the people you are encountering are a little...well...how to say it nicely...nuts?
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rua1412 says:

His mother? No way! You both look like people in your later twenty so don't let envious people to have the best of you ^_^
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