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Long Driveway

Long Driveway by rrmakepeace.
ME/CFS Awareness Day

My attempt to describe life with severe ME/CFS with photo.

This short driveway is a symbol of isolation.

I live alone with severe ME/CFS. The degree of severity varies from “closer to Moderate” to “Very close to Very Severe”. I am complete housebound and often bedridden. I take a day at a time, sometimes a couple of hours at a time. I can have some good afternoon after prolonged rest and conscious pacing in order to see my doctor or do a quick grocery shopping.

I am often too weak and too fatigued to walk up this driveway to check letterbox. I cannot take rubbish bin out every week. On my bad days, or on hot days, walking to letterbox at the gate gives me hyperventilation and crash as if I just finished a marathon run.

I sometimes wave at a neighbour from the letterbox, but I cannot walk across the street and have a chat with him. He sees my walking stick, so I hope he understands I am not being unfriendly neighbour. No neighbour walked on this driveway and knocked on my door to say hello or see if I was okay. I briefly mentioned two neighbours when I moved in here that I am very sick and often in bed. That was the only conversation I had with my neighbours.

This driveway is nothing to able people. But for a severe MEite, it often feels like a high mountain. And it is physically separating me from the rest of the world.


My blog on ME/CFS Awareness Day:
ME/CFS Awareness Day 

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jowynnjohns says:

Rachel, are you ever strong enough to venture past your driveway in your wheel-chair?
Posted 20 months ago. ( permalink )

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rrmakepeace says:

~JoWynn~
The driveway is too steep for a wheelchair. And my energy level is just very very low. (I live with severe ME/CFS.)
I need to refrain myself from unnecessary payback and preserve all my able energy for everyday housekeeping duties, doctor's appointment, quick grocery shopping, and etc. I live in survival mode.
But it is in my hope that I will take my dogs to park one day. It just doesn't seem to be happening for a while.
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ashy_sheela  Pro User  says:

I am so glad that you have your dogs for company, i also have one although she often demands my energy when i feel at my lowest and can be "high maintenance" she is also good company and entertaining. I do not live alone, and i know that my illness and ability to cope with it would be so much worse if i did not have the love, support and company of my partner. It sounds like you are doing so well to manage without any help at all. I really hope you manage to get to the park or have a positive conversation with a neighbour soon. "Small" things like that can really make such a difference.
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rrmakepeace says:

~Ashy~
I would not survive without my dogs. When things were really tough, they were the only reason I didn't end my life... They are relatively small, so they are easier and cheaper to look after. If they are larger, I probably had to give them away because I would not be able to look after them.
I'm used to my life now, so I just do whatever I could and ignore the things I cannot do. I don't like comparing hardships in our lives. They are all hard no matter what size they are. I don't want to disregard other people's struggle and hardship. What you are going through is equally hard as mine.
I will not have chance to have a chat with my neighbours. People are busy with their own lives, and I can understand the reason why. But I WILL go to the park one day.

Amazingly, "small" things that make me smile somehow find their way and come to me. :-D
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ashy_sheela  Pro User  says:

I know what you mean about comparing hardships, it is all subjective, certainly. There are always people worse off than us, as everyone says, but it does not change our own situation or how we feel about it. I was not really comparing so much wanting to acknowledge your struggles. I was so moved to read your meeting with Zarii on your blog - i hope you get to see her again soon.
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rrmakepeace says:

~Ashy~
Thank you very much for acknowledging my struggle.
What I really wanted to say in the previous response was that I acknowledge your struggle, too. But I didn't know how to express it coz my brain wasn't working. "Acknowledge" is the magic word. :-)
Zarii had her first appointment with my doctor the other day, and we had a nice meeting again. :-D
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ashy_sheela  Pro User  says:

Hurray! I am so happy you met up again :)
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IGotMeBabe says:

Rachel,
With both your picture and your words you have described the isolation that living with ME brings. I hope that you see better days ahead, take care
Janette ( 17 years with ME )
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rrmakepeace says:

~Ashy~
Thank you. :-)
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rrmakepeace says:

~Janette~
Thank you for the kind comment.
I'm not sure about my ME condition, but life is looking better now. :-)
I hope you'll have better days, too.
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