366.351 California Supreme Court Strikes Down Ban on Gay Marriages
My ex (of 17 years) and I on the phone yesterday, paraphrased:
HIM: Dd you hear the news?
ME: No, what?
HIM: The California Supreme Court struck down the anti-marriage ruling- gays can get married now.
ME: Really, well, what do you know?
HIM: I am surprised that you hadn't heard about it already, but you are stuck in your little room, on the computer...
ME: Well, I don't have anyone to marry.
HIM: Well, me either!!!
ME: You did, though
HIM: Really? You asked me to get married?
ME: 4 or 5 years ago I told you that I wanted to get married and you said, "maybe, we'll see, if you lose 100 pounds or so, then maybe--"
HIM: Oh.
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weshallmeetonthebeautifulshore (49 months ago | reply)
Savage! He did NOT say that to you?!
Gurllll, you shoulda kicked his ass to the curb right then!
kroo2u (49 months ago | reply)
Oh, that is harsh...
Obviously it is a good thing he is your Ex.
xxxrmt (49 months ago | reply)
He wasn't worth it, hen.
Sooner or later, you'll find someone who loves you, someone you love; someone who wants to marry you.
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canadianlookin (49 months ago | reply)
Congrats on the law change!
And... you are fine the way you are... he just needs glasses.... a brain... a life... etc...
tom29ger (49 months ago | reply)
life goes one ...... i bet you wil give a great husband one day!!
Arovast (49 months ago | reply)
Oh, Doug.
You will meet a good man..... Soooooon.
SoManyIdeas (49 months ago | reply)
Imagine how progressive California is now???? Took em' long enough.......!!!
.......,,,,,........ [deleted] (49 months ago | reply)
love your image....
great about GAY MARRIAGE BEING LEGAL THERE!!!!
and horrific what your ex said to you. GEEZ. how awful.
wwilliamm (49 months ago | reply)
Big hoorah for California! I live in Belgium and I'm married for five years now, earlier wasn't possible. Belgium was the second country in the world were same sex marriages are legal.
Grand Danois [deleted] (49 months ago | reply)
Uh, that was a low blow indeed. That doesn't sound like a person who deserves to marry you anyway.
Congratulations on the court decision. I'm glad that Bush and the religious right doesn't decide everything over there.
Beautiful image, Doug.
Have a wonderful weekend.
Diogioscuro (49 months ago | reply)
Thanks, everyone, for your nice words and support.
Yes, he said that to me, more or less, and it's funny how it seems all crystal clear from this side of three years ago, when he left, than the other side, when I thought I was going to be living with this man for the rest of my life. After all, it had been 17 years. But there was so much WRONG with our relationship, mainly about demands upon me and "or elses," things that I didn't want to "fix," or didn't know how to change, and so it fell apart.
But- YAY for California (where Bush has little, if any, impact)- in 30 days the state will be able to issue mariage licenses to same-sex couples, and though there is a lot of conservative resistance to the court's ruling ("legislating from the bench," etc.), the passage of an amendment to the California constitution seems unlikely, though it is a threat we cannot afford to ignore, either. But even Republican Governor Schwarzenegger vows to work to keep that damn amendment from passing!!!
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Massy75 (49 months ago | reply)
So nice!
Alan46 (49 months ago | reply)
Don't be so modest. I even heard about the ruling on the BBC.
bear869 (49 months ago | reply)
Even if you were a 100 punds heavier than what you are now, Doug, I would marry you...if given half the chance your ex. got!
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Alan46 (49 months ago | reply)
I have a thousand blessings
Each weighs a pound.
The Boys From Syracuse
(1938)
Diogioscuro (49 months ago | reply)
Massy, Alan- thanks...
Teh- thank you for being so sweet- I believe you.
mpatton62 [deleted] (49 months ago | reply)
Those two gentlemen seem a bit wary of the marriage ceremony . . .
Alan46 (49 months ago | reply)
This is a terrible city
The people are cattle and swine
There isn't a girl who's pretty
Nor a friend that I call mine
Boys From Syracuse
(1938)
Diogioscuro (49 months ago | reply)
a wedding, what's a wedding, it's a prehistoric ritual
where everybody promises fidelity forever, which is
maybe the most horrifying word I ever heard of, which is
followed by a honeymoon, where suddenly he'll realize he's
saddled with a nut, and wanna kill me, which he should--
Thanks a bunch,
But I'm not getting married--
Go have lunch,
'Cause I'm not getting married--
You've been grand,
But I'm not getting married--
Don't just stand there,
I'm not getting married--
And don't tell Paul,
But I'm not getting married today.
Go, can't you go?
Why is no-
Body listening?
Goodbye,
Go and cry
At another person's wake.
If you're quick,
For a kick,
You could pick
Up a christening,
But please,
On my knees,
There's a human life at stake!"
Company, 1970
[Madeline Kahn sings it in 1993]
Rafa from Brazil (49 months ago | reply)
I wish we could get married here in Brazil...
Alan46 (49 months ago | reply)
I phoned my analyst
And he told me
To see him on Monday
But I told him on Monday
I'll be floating in the Hudson
With the other garbage
I'm not well
(tell that to your analyst)
Madeline Kahn's rendition is priceless and her theatrical gestures (drooping and picking the bouquet, the dead pan look, glance at the heavens) are priceless.
Kotie Bear (49 months ago | reply)
You are better off without the mean bitch hun. Good things will come to you!!! (((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
Ĝiøvanni (49 months ago | reply)
Great news and great image!
Diogioscuro (49 months ago | reply)
Alex Merenkov photography (48 months ago | reply)
wow, what an asshole. =/
Diogioscuro (48 months ago | reply)
Thanks, Alex- today began the official issuing of licenses for marriage to same sex couples. Some places opened at 5:01pm this evening to be ready for the crowds- the county clerk in Kern County, where Bakersfield is situated, decided "due to financial restraints," that they will no longer offer marriage ceremonies to anyone. But she is a fervent Christian and consulted anti-gay marriage groups to figure out what to do. Fortunately they cannot by law refuse to issue the licenses!
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vyvyanh (48 months ago | reply)
I believe that this photo expresses the main idea of our readings. Especially in response to Soto's "Limits of Ethics in Considering Homosexual Unions" & documents of Vatican II. In opposition of horizontal finality, this photo depicts vertical finality, our innate dynamism of being to develop toward fuller being - where our creation reaches its ultimate goal. This picture features another probable aspect of marriage, which should be open to all possibilities.
-VyVy