so i got this haircut, lots of inches cut off for the sake of change
(yes, my post from yesterday) and you all were so kind...but. here's
the thing, hardly anyone i've been with has noticed.
what do i make of this?!
e said, "it's just because it looks so natural" ~ but, i'm
afraid i've become kind of invisible...
if so, so be it.
but it just hit me strangely today...i'm not ready to fade away, not
just yet...
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kristin~mainemomma 16 months ago | reply
no no no. but heck then shake them all up and go SHORT. i know you rocked a pixie once, do it again. i love the way a pixie feels when just cut, like a fresh paintbrush... oooh yes.
and NO to disappearing. no no no...
makes me think of this song. the lyrics once served me so well when i too felt like i was disappearing....
www.youtube.com/watch?v=dWRGZaHb8xE
journeyswithasimplegirl 16 months ago | reply
thank you all, again, for seeing me.
my heart as well as my changes.
xox to you all.
it does make me feel lovely, well...actually, going out into my work environment and life today and not being noticed for the changes i made made me pause ~ it didn't take away from the lovely feelings the change created in me, it's just that it stirred up other not so lovely feelings about aging with grace, and fierceness.
lizzard_nyc 16 months ago | reply
I never notice haircuts til days later. From what I can see in the pic, you have Bangalore and that hasn't changed, so its mostly the back and that is harder to notice, I did that w my own sister! But once I realized, I gasped, but it took a bit. You certainly are not invisible!!! Don't even think it.
I got my hair cut a couple of weeks ago and walked around saying "look at my bangs!". In case people didn't notice:).
beauty_goodness_truth 16 months ago | reply
Well, I for one can't wait to see your haircut! When I saw your photo from yesterday, I felt the pang. You know which one I mean? The pang that says, she looks so amazingly beautiful, and I'm worried I don't look that good. For me, the pang has been getting smaller in the last years, only because I feel like "I yam whose I yam" (Popeye talk), and who the heck cares if I'm not knocking everyone dead with my looks. I got my loves, and I've got my life experiences . . . and besides, Crone-dom is a lot closer than my Maiden years. There's no stopping time . . .
Anywho, all this to say . . . you are exquisitely gorgeous . . . you are as far from invisible as it's possible to be . . . and I can't wait to notice your haircut and to shower you with compliments.
*smooch*, dear one . . . cause, it's been a while since I smooched ya.
~lisamac~ 16 months ago | reply
I had to come back...to say I see you...I hear you...love you friend xx
ko2008 16 months ago | reply
What is hair, anyway? Perhaps those around you are seeing the wonderful you that you project and put out there...I'd rather people notice my spark and my energy and my soul than my hair. Of course, I think my hairdo is from the 90s. :)
MG-B Photo 16 months ago | reply
I kind of look at my 40's as a time when I need to stop expecting to be noticed & appreciated from the outside world & I need to start noticing & appreciating my self from the inside. I stopped dying my hair a couple of years ago, and that has helped me to come to terms with who I really am now. I also have been on a mission to get in shape-- running & doing yoga.
On the one hand, not being noticed just means that you are a steady, dependable figure in the lives of those around you-- and that's a good thing for them. But it's up to you to make sure you don't disappear by taking time to focus on you. Work out. Take classes. Learn something new. Do something radically different with your hair. Get a tattoo. :) Look around at older women and decide who you want to be! Define yourself.
This is a gorgeous image, btw. How the heck you set that all up & had it come out so perfectly, I can hardly imagine! Did yo use a remote or a timer?
journeyswithasimplegirl 16 months ago | reply
i love your advice about not becoming lost to myself. that's truly what matters, i know. my internal voice grows clearer by the day, a gift of my late 30's for sure.
this photo was taken by my 13 yr. old daughter who found me lying in the front yard in the crocuses, trying to hold my camera (with the 50mm lens on!) at a far enough distance to get the shot i wanted. she begged me to hand her the camera, and i asked her to focus on the flowers...this is what she got.
ps ~ i have dreams of getting my 1st tattoo this year... : )
journeyswithasimplegirl 16 months ago | reply
(sam I am) 16 months ago | reply
You have quite the helper. This is amazing!!! You are such an inspiration. Words and all. Absolutely gorgeous.
Claire A1980 16 months ago | reply
Never invisible, my dear, never.
Meandering Path 16 months ago | reply
Oh, I so hear what you're saying. It is so disconcerting when you change your do so drastically that you shock yourself each time you look in the mirror and then even your own family don't comment on it! I must admit though when I saw your photo yesterday I thought the new haircut was perfect for you and maybe that has something to do with it - it just looks so right that people think it's always been that way. Once when I got my long hair cut super short I had people saying that it suited me so much it looked like my hair had been short for ages??? Perhaps your inner beauty is what people are focused on and your appearance is less significant because my word your inner beauty is beyond measure (but I hasten to add you're very beautiful on the outside as well) . . . xo
MamaOwlPhoto 16 months ago | reply
You are anything but invisible dear Angela. I often feel invisible, I feel like no one sees me.
You are a gorgeous person inside and out, and knowing you makes my life better.
Are you really thinking of getting a first tattoo? So am I.....<3
vi.llette 16 months ago | reply
hello Gorgeous… love this… love you x
~Kyla~ 16 months ago | reply
Love this Angela (and yesterdays shot too). You are on a roll :) Certainly NOT invisible!
red * 16 months ago | reply
I just love the support I have the privilege of seeing here on your page from all your sisters. It’s just amazing, you see you could never be invisible to us.
journeyswithasimplegirl 16 months ago | reply
i have never felt such sisterhood. xoxoxoxoxox to you all.
ewa m bakrac (kuki) 16 months ago | reply
Invisible ? Yes, i know that feeling. Bitter sad, still, passes away, and you feel important again.
XO angela.
Btw - love the shot.
wildorange55 15 months ago | reply
this is gorgeous, you are gorgeous, and you are not fading away. not today, not tomorrow. not ever, with a heart like that. xo
♥ Dr Vogelmeisje 15 months ago | reply
Sometimes everyone seems so busy and absorbed that they do not seem to notice, which is sad - but I think it might be something else. I think we live in a world where things change so quickly and constantly, that our brains just don't cope with registering all the change. Looking natural in something new may just really be the reason that our overprocessed brains don't register something new? I hope so...
Either way, I can only agree with the above: this is gorgeous and you are gorgeous!