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This is not Art !!! ...I let others that are much more talented create Art.
These are just Snapshots taken inworld with or of some of my dear friends.

However,You will find some sets of edited photos taken by the talented Phil Sidek.Wich is an inworld photographer with that special feeling for sensual moments and scenes.





Treatise on SL for friendship, sex and love :


By Tiffanie Keen XTC Nymphette (reproduced by kind permission of Tiffanie Keen) [I'm just posting it on the web - I didn't write it - but I hope you find it interesting - Lej]




To briefly introduce myself, I am an author of Erotic stories. In my time on SL I have observed sex, love and friendship through the eyes and experience of one who loves to describe human relationships in story. I have seen an opportunity here to simply provide a way of conducting relationships in SL that may reduce the instance of unpleasant and disappointing relationships and so here is the basis of a covenant for friendship, sex and love in SL.




Unlike RL Secondlife provides a different context for relationships. Time is compressed and often limited. Our senses are reduced to two sight and sound: audio and visual. Sex in Secondlife is safe from disease, most physical violence and unwanted pregnancy. Yet relationships in SL still suffer human emotional qualities of jealousy, possessiveness, anger, prejudice and mistrust as well as love, understanding and compassion. I have seen many monogamous relationships in SLwhich are based on a clear understanding that 2 people choose only to share their SL with each other as couples. This clarity is expressed by the partnership and the devotion to one another than many seek in SL and may not have in RL. SL provides us with opportunities to lead different or parallel lives. So for some who may not choose to be in monogamous relationships and for those who want the same clarity that the RL model seems to provide I have attempted here to draft a covenant for friendship, sex and love that may provide a basis for compassion between people in relationships that allows the souls or character of their SL presence to be felt and shared.




#1 Accept the Avatar on face value.

In SL we must remember that our Avatar has been chosen by us it is how we wish to be represented. This means that age, gender, sexual orientation, colour, creed and values or even species or fantasy being may be radically different from RL or they could mirror them. Whilst the RL human controls the SL Avatar it is their being and character that is presented to you in a relationship. Acceptance of this with compassion and understanding is the basis of real friendship.




#2 Accept the RL effect.

RL presents system crashes, real world interruptions, emotional problems that affect the avatars human. When an Avi reveals aspects of their human it too may or may not be truth but if we accept it as how the Avi wants to be represented then distrust disappears. If we accept also that at times people leave suddenly and without explanation then we are being like true friends and can show understanding. The RL identity should remain private and any revelation of it by the choice of the Avi. Acceptance of these revelations is not an acceptance of truth or potential deceit it is again how the Avi wishes to be represented and should be accepted without question by a friend. The act of accepting friendship in SL should acknowledge that you are prepared to accept real life affect.




#3 See Sex as an expressive and creative act of friendship.

Sex is complex in any life. In SL where everyone can potentially be young and beautiful it presents different complexities many of which can lead to jealousy, discrimination, verbal violence, possessiveness and deceit. All of these are negative emotions none of us want to experience in a game. The act of sex in SL is expressive. In the absence of taste, smell and n touch we imagine the sensuality through elaborate animations, word play and erotic sounds and visual displays. It is erotic and sexy in both lives. The complexity of the age and gender of RL humans is often an issue in these relationships. There seems to be a carry over from last century’s cyber sex relationships where people seem to think that the relationship is between 2 RL people. What are you wearing? A/S/L? This is not a basis for a SL relationship this is someone trying to get off in RL. Those who have chosen different age, gender or sexual orientations in SL do so because they are willing to enter into a different relationship perhaps experimenting perhaps fantasising but their intention is not to deceive or hurt. If another Avi chooses to have sexual relations then it is based on a desire that is about the Avi and the personality represented in that Avatar and so sex is at worst participating in directing an amateur porn flick and at best can be deeply erotic, sensual and highly arousing. If we enter into sex in SL taking into consideration #1 & #2 then it can be a very expressive and embodied relationship with another. It is not uncommon for friends in SL to have sex without the commitment of a permanent or any kind of partnership relationship. It can simply be a way of expressing a physical aspect of friendship a sensuous side. I suggest that unless you have committed to some kind of monogamous relationship agreement then sex in SL is a symbol of what one Avi is prepared to share with another and this should be taken for the value of its gift as sensuous friendship and an expression of desire and attraction beyond friendship but still within it.




#4 Embrace Love without boundaries.

Avatars fall in love. Souls entwine, they express understanding, adoration, desire and intense emotional attachment for another. Often this is expressed sexually but most often it is expressed creatively through the poetry of words and actions, through sharing time and emotions together. Some commit to long-term monogamous relationships, some marriage in SL but there is also an opportunity to make such a commitment to another and this not be the exclusive, possessive style of love that is part of the RL patriarchal contract that has been fashioned around lines of descent through children and property inheritance. In SL it can be a declaration of profound connection and friendship. It acknowledges the special status of the lover but does not need to be exclusive or possessive. When we love we are bound by the beauty and intensity of our feelings for another this is a gift that multiplies our affection and amplifies our feeling of wellbeing. To make this exclusive or to destroy it with mistrust or jealousy seems the waste of an opportunity for a much more loving community. If we love more than one other person does that diminish love? I would suggest that it may actually make us more loving, sharing, caring and compassionate creatures.