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LIFE...

You learn that friendships come and go, but real friends will never leave you...

You learn that the word trust is only delegated to a chosen few...

You learn that no one should "complete" you, but rather "compliment" you...

You learn how to accept challenges and mistakes with your head held high...

You learn that life is short, and that time is not a promise...

You learn that some people need to learn their lessons on their own...

After awhile you learn that you don't know everything...

You learn that life is all about learning more each and every day...

Yes and each day I am learning something new about me...

And you must know that when people talk about me...

That just means they are leaving you alone...

Very Very Wise words indeed...

For All The Good Will Teach You More...

And Ask For Nothing In Return...

Appended From A Better Person...

Aways Live Love and Most of All...

Laugh You Ass Off...

ShaveR

Living Life Backwards

I want to live my next life backwards:

You start out dead and get that out of the way.

Then you wake up in an old age home feeling better every day.

Then you get kicked out for being too healthy.

You enjoy your retirement and collect your pension.

Then when you start work, you get a gold watch on your first day.

You work 40 years until youre too young to work .

You get ready for High School: drink alcohol, party, and you are generally promiscuous.

Then you go to primary school, you become a kid, you play, and you have no responsibilities.

Then you become a baby, and then...

You spend your last 9 months floating peacefully in luxury, in spa-like conditions: central heating, room service on tap, and then.

You finish off as an orga$m.

I rest my case.

ShaveR

Respect In Relationships, Respect In Your Relationship, Self Respect

By Guide

The key to having respect in your relationship and to having respect in other relationships starts with you. Similar to trust, respect is something that evolves over time and begins by the initiation of respect for each other within the relationship from the relationships onset. However in order for you to be respected, you must first respect your self. There is power in your opinion of yourself, and that opinion will be shown by your own overall demeanor.

How you respect your self will drastically effect how others perceive you, and thus how they respect or disrespect you to some extent. If you do not have a healthy level of self confidence in yourself, you may be perceived as being weak, and many people may look to take advantage of that. Or, they may not readily give you the respect that they should based on your feelings of apprehension, and you are likely to be less respectful of others, treating them within the same mannerisms as you treat your self without necessarily knowing it.

You see, if you do not think of yourself in a healthy manner, you are less likely to think of others in a healthy manner. There is a difference between being conceded and being confident in yourself. The conceded individual, will likely boast about themselves in order to raise up their opinions of themselves. The confident person, does not need to do this, a confident person acts with sureness and speaks with assurance. The one who is unconfident and unsure of themselves may at times belittle or degrade others in an effort to raise themselves up. So if you are finding this kind of issue within the respect of your relationship, you need to first have a look at yourself, in all honesty, before you look at the other person.

Many people look to show an untrue reflection of themselves, this is referred to as portraying a self image. Self image is often a secular termed used by many in psychological fields, but it is often used in a misrepresenting formation. Self image and self esteem are not the same. Image is not necessarily truthful, it is a perception or a portrait, esteem is actual. Image is what people think you are or what you attempt to portray yourself as, character is what we really are. With this understanding you can better do your own self introspection and have an understanding of your own sense of self worth. If you think lowly of yourself, you may be one who often looks for compliments, and you might also be one who has a less than a "can do" attitude. Sometimes we just need to harness our apprehension and use it to power us forward. In order to get past something, or over something, we usually must go through something to reach the other side. This is often how we build confidence, you must persevere. So we can take that feeling of uncertainty, connect it to persistence, and in doing so we have created courage. Do not be afraid of your future, do not be afraid to fail, failures are only steps we learn from, failures only teach us what does not work. But by continuing to press forward with determination, we will find, through experience, that we are able to reach our goals and destinations.

So what if you find that the reason you do not have respect in your relationship is because your spouse or partner does not respect themselves? This is where the key formula of love comes in. In order to love your companion, you will need to build them up through love. No, you do not do this by flattery, you look to strengthen them in the places where their weaknesses are. Most people feel lowly of themselves due to feelings of unworthiness, this is likely because they have been listening to the lies of belittling, and because they over value the opinions of people.